Hello friends! Guess what!!?!? I have really fantastic news!! I have completely figured out life! Can you believe it?! I can now do everything perfectly, and I live the life of my dreams on a daily basis! I wake up every day with loads of money, I never have to work for anything, and best of all, I have unlimited time on my hands! Isn’t that amazing?!
Clearly I’m completely joking. The idea of having life figured out or what I call an “Instagram Life” has been something that has been on my mind a lot lately. You go on Instagram (or Facebook, or a blog, you catch my drift) and see everyone living these perfect lives that never go wrong. These people travel all over the world, they buy all the clothes, and they have perfect relationships. Seems amazing, right? Let me be the first to tell you, as someone who is on all of those social media platforms, that life is rarely that perfect. Yes, I just posted a photograph of me wearing a cute new outfit, but do you know how many photographs I had to go through before I found one where I didn’t look insane? Yes, I just posted a photograph of our trip to Europe, but do you know how many long, grueling months of doing nothing but saving it took for us to get there? Yes, I just posted a photograph of my husband who I love very much, but do you know that I was angry with him for something totally stupid and we got into an argument over it? Do you see my point? Of course people are only going to post the best things, why would anyone want to talk about the bad and the embarrassing in public?!
Here’s where I think things can get interesting and really why I wanted to write about this. I think we are missing this line of transparency between people. I think we need to talk about the scary, the embarrassing, and the down-right difficult things. We, as humans and the creation of God, all experience similar things and I think it’s in all of our best interests to discuss them! We need to get into the nitty-gritty and talk about things. I’m going to be honest, talking about uncomfortable things is difficult for me. I am the type of person who wants to make sure everyone feels comfortable, and if something I have said makes them feel uncomfortable I instantly feel bad, like I have done/said something wrong. Maybe that in itself is a problem. I think having transparency about our faults and our bad decisions is necessary! Can you imagine how many people you could help if you are open about something you are struggling with?? You never know who is struggling with that same issue!! On the flip side, maybe someone has been in your shoes and can offer some advice on how to handle it! We have an enormous platform to help others, so why don’t we use it for good?
So here’s a little bit of honesty for you today about this very subject! Several years ago I got off Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram for almost a year because I was struggling with jealousy and gossip. I was looking at everyone’s “perfect” lives and was jealous that people were doing all the things mentioned at the beginning of this post and I wasn’t. I read into every single comment that people wrote. One day I had an unnecessary breakdown over something ridiculous and it made me realize that I had a serious problem. I decided the best way to solve the issue was to get off all social media. I needed to work on my heart and learn to be content. Let me tell you, that was a very freeing year. I learned a lot about myself in that time. I still struggle with jealousy every now and then, but then I remember that people only show the best and brightest. I have no clue what they struggle with, or what circumstances led them to where they are. Also, I think it’s important to count your own blessings! I know everyone has at least one thing in their life that they can count as a blessing, even if it’s just that the sun was shining that day.
Ok, so what does all this mean practically for us? Maybe we need to post that stupid photograph of ourselves, so people can understand that life isn’t perfect. Maybe we need to ask for help when we are struggling with something, so others know they are not alone. Maybe we all need to get over the idea of living an “Instagram life” and just start enjoying life.
Wow! Look at you! You made it all the way through this post! *10 points to <insert your chosen Hogwarts house here>!* Thank you for reading, and I hope that my transparency helps you! I want to start being more open about my thoughts/opinions/struggles on the blog in hopes that I can strike up some good ‘ole conversation. If you have any questions for me or any comments, please let me know! I love receiving comments or emails about the things I write, it lets me know I’m not alone or just writing to myself! <Insert laughing/crying emoji>
P.s.- I have included some of my outtakes from previous posts, because, again, transparency. I kid you not, I take about 40 pictures in order to get 5 or 6 I actually like. Enjoy the hysteria, friends!